One night, when I was hanging out with a guy friend of mine I haven’t heard from since highschool, he told me, ” If I were THAT depressed, I would’ve dated her.”

Right then and there, inexplainable frustration welled inside of me as I could not help but blurt out, “So, what happens when you’re not depressed anymore, you leave that girl? So how about her? Did you know that maybe she would have been so attached to you ? How could you let go just that fast? How could you? ”

Okay, I’ve officially made my friend feel like he was the devil. He finished his drink and did not say a word.

I just could not believe what I’ve heard – there are moments when I wanted to know what was inside a guy’s mind, but with this, I now wished I hadn’t.

It just proves how easy they can bring themselves to woo women, gain their approval, earn their trust, give some part of themselves, but they can take it away just that easily as well.

It just proves how easy it is that they can issue careless words that make girls feel all loved and special, but in truth, those words did not mean a thing while these poor girls carefully memorized and cherished what they’ve just said, and kept them in their hearts like precious keepsakes.

They choose to channel their loneliness, or maybe their depression, not in productive pursuits, but rather destructive pursuits. Destroying another, that is. A harsh statement, but I just cannot stand it.

What they need is to realize how to value and respect emotions. Specially of those they choose to “affect.” It may be “fun,” but I don’t see anything fun with sleepless nights, blank stares, and troubled days.

P.S. to my male friends, if you happen to want to defend yourselves, it’s just fine. I just wanted to vent.